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Poem – Youth

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Poem – Hallowed Ground

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Poem – Keep Going

Merry Christmas to you, whoever you are. Have some emotional encouragement wrapped in cryptic rhyme.

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Misc – Joke – Ask a bodybuilder a question…

I invented another terrible joke…

What does a bodybuilder do when he or she doesn’t know the answer…?

Shrugs.

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Misc – I keep dreaming about the Apocalypse

There are some dreams worth telling other people about.

Here follows one.

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A little like this.

I dream vividly. Often about the end of the world (yes). My dreams rarely make much sense. But often, everyone dies. I have been a lucid dreamer in the past (I practiced) and though I don’t generally talk about the occasionally worrying stuff my subconscious mind throws up, two days ago I had an imaginary encounter. It was with an evil black planet and it is worth talking about…

As in most dreams, the imagery is like recalling a memory but even less reliable. Very vivid, but what exactly happened, I can’t say. The ominous image that I have swiped off of Google is a good summary of what I saw bearing down on me.

Obsidian Planet

A great obsidian black planet had taken up residence in orbit around the earth, and moved through the sky, slowly at first. It began to pick up speed every time it repeated a trip across the horizon. Every time it became visible, it’s gravitational pull would increase and I would become disorientated. Like that feeling you get from freefall or negative gravity.

As it sailed by, there was screaming,the entire world was screaming. Like the kind you hear as a rollercoaster takes a dive, except everybody everywhere. It was almost Armageddon every time it passed by. And with every increasingly fast sweep, it drew closer and larger. Right to the end  of the dream where it nearly completely obscured the entire skyline, and darkened the sunlight to a pale eerie glow. It seemed to have grown in size to eclipse the Earth and was swallowing us all up.

The dream ended, as always, just before impact, and as the gravitational effects where almost completely disorienting and sickening. Everything was moving so fast. And then nothing…

Fucking awesome. What a way to die.

But what the hell could this mean?

This isn’t the first time I have dreamt about giant planets colliding with the Earth. The last I recall was of a purple colour and grew smaller and larger in a yo-yo like motion, one minute it was small, the next, looming and massive. Back and forth it went. That dream also ended just before impact and there was screaming.

But do they even have to mean anything?

Lucidity and Dream Interpretation

There are those who believe in dream interpretation. I think that there is some credence to this. It’d be nice to think that all of this vivid imagery and ridiculous mental subplots could be studied or understood. Perhaps we could use it as a kind of self administered psychotherapy and diagnosis. I think it would be more of an art than an exact science. Perhaps as tenuous as many of the other fields of psychology.

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SIgmund Freud was a believer in dream interpretation (amongst other esoteric things)

Me? Though these dreams are enjoyable and therefore perhaps therapeutic, I use them for inspiration. In dreams it feels as if you have been there. It feels authentic.

And if you can control your dreams (in some way) through lucidity, you can have almost any experience. I have been to many places and met many people in my mind. I’d go far enough to say that through exploring my dreams and directing some of them, I have learnt a lot about myself and had quite a few important realisations and changes in perspective. It seems funny to write it.

So it’s not just entertainment or your own private disaster movie, but an exercise in directing imagination. And Einstein said that imagination is more important than knowledge (and I don’t know about you, but I agree)

Still, lucid dreaming is a skill, and is one I have neglected of late. There are many people who do it far better than me and take it more seriously. I’m just taking occasional trips to what Maxwell Maltz (of Psycho Cybernetics fame) described as ‘the theatre of the mind’. And it’s pants destroying fun.

If I followed up on the cues my nightmares were giving me, I’d be one hell of a music video/short film writer.

Something for the future perhaps…

Philosophy: Why life accelerates as you get older

“It’s a poor sort of memory that only works backwards.”

- Lewis Carroll

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Today I had a moment of total realisation that shook the very core of who I was and forced me to examine the years I have left on this planet. It was a realisation about the passage of time and it was caused, funnily enough, by a video game about police helicopters (yes, really).

I could explain how it affected me, but I think it were more useful to you if I first explain  why a game about police helicopters affected me so much. And how that relates to similar experiences you’ll have had/will have as you get older.

And we all get older…

Humans block time into segments using memories as milestones.

Or perhaps put another way; memories are like reference points in how we measure the ethereal phenomenon of time.

Bear with me, I’ll explain…

Today I was researching an article for a major gaming website about Psygnosis, a now defunct Liverpool based games publisher and developer. The company is much beloved by me and countless other gamers who grew up on the epic digital storytelling that this little firm churned out over the years. One of my favourite games they released was G Police, a shooter for the Playstation.

As of this date (at the end of 2011), G Police was published a little over 14 years ago. For me, as a 23 year old, this means that this game came out over half of my lifetime ago.

To you, 14 years may not seem like a long time, but for the less experienced, like me, it really is.

Its simple maths…

If you are 80 years old and you divide life up into 4 chunks, each one is 20 years.

If you are are 20 years old and you divide life up into 4 chunks each is 5 years.

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Ugly but I hope it conveys my point

(Note I’m not saying we divide life into 4 chunks, it just simplifies it a bit)

You feel/perceive each chunk in the same way, but a lot more time passes between chunks for the 80 year old. Therefore a chunk of time for an older person feels the same, but in physical terms, is represents a lot longer span of time.

And it’s why when we get older, time seems to speed up. The chunks are getting bigger!

Memory is selective and unreliable. Your subconscious may record everything, but what you can feel, regardless of the length, feels the same. Time, in the objective sense, remains the same, but our perceptions change.

Why I almost fell off my chair…

What today’s gaming related realisation meant for me is that the chunks I measure time in are growing in size as I age.

Or to put it another way, time has put me a lot further away from that 1997 milestone than I had realised.

Our lifetimes are marked by the memorable milestones of our lives

Our intuitive feel for time’s passage is made up in milestones lodged in our memories. The strong feelings and good times associated with this game mean that G Police was one of my milestones.

Today the perspective it gave me was literally shocking.

I think this is a preview of the shock that very old people get when they realise how long has passed between now and a certain milestone.

Life’s not short, but it’s fast.

And it gets faster.

When was the last time you were shocked by such a realisation?

 

Joke – Spinoza’s Dirty House

Why was Baruch Spinoza’s house so dirty?

Because nature abhors a vacuum cleaner.

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lol

Article – Thought Experiment – At This Very Moment

At this very moment somewhere…

…Someone is born

…Someone dies

…Someone is in anguish

…Someone is in ecstasy

…Someone grieves

…Someone celebrates

…Someone is loved

…Someone is lonely

…Someone is engrossed

…Someone is bored

…Someone does themselves proud

…Someone fails miserably

…Someone’s life collapses

…Someone starts life anew

…Someone steps into a new world

…Someone leaves an old world behind

…Someone realises they love somebody

…Someone realises they don’t any more

…Someone misses somebody

…Someone is missed

…Someone climaxes

…Someone doesn’t

…Someone cowers

…Someone stands tall

…Someone screams

…Someone sits, surrounded by perfect silence

…Someone realises the futility of it all

…Someone realises the magnificence of it all

…Someone considers what someone else is doing.

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Article – On Seeing Opportunities And Helping People

The core idea of this article is that you don’t necessarily have to go out and find ‘contacts’ to seize extra opportunities in your life. Many of the people you already know loosely, or those closer to you, could very well be all you need. You have to ask and find out. And more importantly, you may have the resources or connections that these people could use to achieve greater professional or personal success. In this article I will discuss looking for more easily accessible opportunities and how to make use of them…

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Because I am really subtle.

Consider where you are in life now. If you are satisfied and successful, it may be because of some of these principles. These ideas can aid you. If you are dissatisfied and unsuccessful these ideas can greatly aid you. I didn’t ‘invent’ any of this, this is simply the time honoured means that people have been using to ‘get things done’ for centuries now. It doesn’t mean that make any claim to being an epic business success either, though I do embrace this philosophy wholeheartedly in my dealings with others.

There is an old business cliché; “your network is your net worth“. In a way this is true. Generally speaking, famous people are rich. They have lots of opportunities to provide value to the marketplace because lots of people know them and what they can do. They take advantage of these opportunities and grow wealthy. But who says that they should get all the rewards of being known for what they are good at?

Collaborative Mindset – The Key To Great Things (and pretty much everything!)

Simply put, the collaborative mindset acknowledges that we are more than the sum of our parts and you don’t have to do everything alone. It also symbolises the fact that the very world we live in as an integrated organic and political system. The social contract is built on the idea of collaboration. Society would not have come about if people hadn’t decided to collaborate on things. Pretty much everything you see around you required the work of multiple people. Example of the few things that may be completely in isolation are natural art, such as wood carvings done by a single person in isolation, but even then, unless the guy made the knife he used to carve the wooden artifact, he had some outside help getting his tools.  Hell, even you were the product of a collaboration between Mum and Dad.

Collaborative Mindset (literally)

Your opinion and philosophy was shaped by all the external stimuli that other people have given you. Yes, you are completely unique in your philosophy and I’m sure that you ‘think for yourself’ but much of the ideas and psychological paradigms that you construct your thinking with came from other people.

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Neither your perspective nor this building were built in isolation.

What I am trying to emphasize here with thousands of words is that nobody succeeds alone. Society has built up a mythical persona of the rugged individualist and the self made man. Think John Rambo, singlehandedly killing an entire army for great justice. But realistically, it doesn’t work that way. Even commandos operate in small units and get their ammunition, training and orders from other people.

Without collaboration human society would not exist. The moment we stop collaborating, is the moment it all begins to collapse. Just imagine what would happen if everyone in the world suddenly gained the mindset of absolutely self interested 2 year old children. It wouldn’t last long, would it?

So, hopefully I’ve hammered that point in enough…

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The rugged individualist needs no help whatsoever and cannot be killed by conventional weapons.

The Idea

So, amongst your network of friends and associates is the potential to create connections that can create magnificent improvements, be these financial, emotional or social. You can literally change your life completely and for the better with the influence of just one person.

And it goes both ways. Like an operator at a switchboard of opportunity, you have a role as networker, which now conscious of, you can choose to accept or reject.

The examples are endless. It may be as simple as having a problem that somebody out there knows the answer to. Perhaps you are a seeker with a spiritual question that someone can help you answer by his or her very example? Then there are the obvious examples of new friends, lovers, mentors and companions out there waiting to be found. People are almost unanimously the source of all fun and frustration in your life. And all a network really is, is a means to bring in all the wonderful things that people do and have into your world. Without other people life would be so depressingly boring that you’d probably be dead. Or insane. Who wants to be a hermit really?

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It takes a special sort of person to willingly relinquish contact with society.

 

I apply the idea by trying to consciously be as helpful and as useful as I can in the way I live. When people talk to me, I always tell them to ‘let me know if I can be of any more help’. I must have said it a thousand times. And I say it with the utmost sincerity. Yet I am always amazed at how little people are willing to take advantage of the help I would give freely and happily.

I think that one of the things behind this is that perhaps the promise to offer more help if required is seen merely as a social convention. The same way you say ‘good morning’ despite the fact that your cat has been run over, you’ve burnt your toast and a virus just corrupted last night’s work.

Unhelpful Habits

To better apply the idea there are some old habits that don’t really serve you or the world at large. They may need to be overcome.  To overcome them, first you must identify them…

Habit 1: Schadenfreude or being a ‘Sports Dad’

Firstly, schadenfreude is not for you anymore. You have nothing to gain from not helping your network succeed. Satisfaction arranged from ‘being in the same boat’ is weak at best and disgusting at worst. Consider, if one of those close to you has an opportunity to succeed, the new level they reach in life may present countless opportunities for you, let alone the happiness you get from seeing someone else you love being happy! If you should feel challenged by the idea of a loved one succeeding at anything, perhaps ask yourself why you feel this way? Does it make you feel inferior? Why? You are no worse or better than anyone else. The idea is meaningless. It’s not rational!

What real reasons would you have for not wanting a loved one to succeed? I can’t think of any.

Perhaps be encouraging. People need encouragement like people need food.  That doesn’t mean be a ‘Sports Dad’. Sports Dads sometimes turn the idea of offering encouragement into ‘complete control of my child’s life’. You can give little nudges, but pushing is usually unhelpful. People hate being pushed, obviously, and can turn resentful, which is no good for anyone.

On the flipside, sometimes you need a Sports Dad (but maybe a personal coach is better?). Perhaps Tiger Woods or Michael Jordan lost significant parts of their childhood to the endless practice of their craft, but I think it is fair to say they are both being amply rewarded for their excellence now!

The key thing is that they both got heroic and consistent encouragement at that all-important time in their lives.

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Sometimes you need a Sports Dad.

Habit 2: Treating people badly

Yeah, it is completely obvious but treating people badly for the sake of it really is harming more than just the receiver of your abuse. You may have seen the old cartoon of the boss who shouts at an employee, who shouts at his wife, who shouts at her son, who kicks the cat, and so on… This seems like a very reasonable way of describing the way that a message travels about, both good and bad. It is hard for us to get anything done if we are exerting our energies on sabotaging the progress of other people.

Habit 3: Not Asking For Help

If you have bought into the idea of the rugged individualist mythos in any way, you may feel guilty for asking people for help. I know what it feels like. You are supposed to measure up to the other people, right? You’ve got to be able to do your own graphic design, sales, raise 3 happy healthy children be able to run a marathon, know all the right people AND still have time for a good book. Right?

Wrong. I’ve been Mr. One Man Army and it was not a good time in my life, and if you’ve ever tried to go there fully, I think you’ll know what I mean.

You might be surprised to know that provided it is not too arduous, most people like to help each other. It gives us good feelings about ourselves. Why else does giving the right present at Christmas feel so wonderful and why else would people spend so much time and money in charitable acts or volunteering? Let people help you for their own good!

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I think that Indiana Jones is another example of the archetypical ‘Rugged Individualist’

Caveat: this is clearly not the same as being a social parasite that tries to extract as much energy and resources as possible from other people.  You want a little help, not to be carried for the rest of your life, right?

Networking

Not just ‘schmoozing’ for personal gain.

Networking sometimes takes on a negative connotation of seeing people as social ends and ‘befriending’ them solely for what they can do for you. Other times it gets overcomplicated by all sorts of messages that detract from the simple aphorism which can sum the whole idea up; ‘give to get’. It’s really not that hard (unless, I would imagine you are a politician or someone rather famous, but that is something else entirely..)

The true networker understands the value of helping his network and geometrically increasing the opportunities and possibilities within. Every addition to his associative group adds a magnitude of potential.

To put it simply; if you know 500 people on terms that you are friendly enough to converse with, and you meet a new person, you now have a potential 500 introductions to make.

That could be 500 new opportunities for everybody in your network.

What’s the problem then? People don’t tell each other what they want and what they can offer. I am as guilty as this as ever. Sometimes I think it would be a great idea for us all to have an elevator pitc, in the same way we all brush our teeth or take showers as a social obligation. You meet someone at a party and that inevitable fucking question of “what do you do/where do you work/how do you derive an income” etc. comes up. You tell them about your job and they nod and smile.  Often that’s about all that happens. A superficial connection and not much opportunity for either of you to help each other.

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Got one?

However, some people are much better at this. You meet them and they tell you what they do as a benefit and what they need. Sort of like an abbreviated self-description/elevator pitch. For example, “I’m John, and I’m an attorney who helps ensure that there is fairness in the workplace. I’m looking for people who have been mistreated at work who want help in claiming what they are due”.

Yes, I just made this up. But it sums up what John does and what he needs most at this moment.

Do you have one? I still don’t. My excuse is that I haven’t really found what it is I do yet. Or, I do too many things. Maybe your life is better organized than mine, and if so, what’s your excuse for not having one?

Making Matches In Heaven

Another way to make use of networking is through the process of matchmaking. If your friends or acquaintances are heartsick and lonely (and they’ve actually got the balls to tell you), you may be able to aid them in finding that special other person. I must admit that I have no experience whatsoever in matchmaking but am told it is very personally rewarding to successfully match people up. I can see why.

With this in mind I’d think it is best not to match up people from too close a set of social circles. We’ve all seen Fallout from a broken relationship cause complications that spread between mutual friendship groups. But, ask someone who’s actually done it though!

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In Singapore, the social development unit is an actual government provided service that matches up (amongst other things) couples by educational background.

Getting On The Train – Opportunity Goldmine!

Getting the train is actually pretty significant, once you get over the monotonous similarity of the same route that you may have taken one too many times for your liking. Why? Because there are absolutely ridiculous amounts of opportunities that we all miss, every day to meet new people on public transport. How many people do you ‘meet’ (as in see or spend time with) but actually not speak to in a year? Hundreds. Maybe thousands.

Yeah, the train is usually not acknowledged as the best place to go for ‘business networking’, but I’ve probably passed up hundreds of potential band members, girlfriends, business partners and drinking buddies in the last year of time I have spent getting around in central London. The real problem is, though we are all awash in such opportunities, we still have the stranger divisions and social stigma associated with talking to new people. Sometimes we are just too polite. It is a real and tragic shame to be so surrounded by life, yet to often feel so disconnected from it all, hiding behind today’s issue of The Guardian.

As an aside, I’m actually typing this part of the article on the train. They guy next to me is reading The Evening Standard, and I’ve got my head down, typing. Delicious irony, but a bit sad all the same.

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How many very interesting relationships are waiting for the people here? Yet most of them are fiddling on their phones or reading. Image credit: xarj

Life Should Be More Like A Party And Less Like A Commute…

Now here’s where the thought experiment begins… Think of a party environment. It is rare that you actually know everybody at the party, but if it is a good party you are pretty comfortable with everyone there, right? In a way this is because everyone at this party knows everybody else in some way through mutual connections. You see an interesting looking person and you know that you probably know someone who knows them. Maybe the alcohol and the music help a bit? You can have that conversation if you want.

I think it is not about pitching people when you meet them. I as much as anyone else hate this. Yes you offer things, but you aren’t just a commercial service with legs and mouth  that won’t stop yapping. Your offerings can be given from a selfless place. One that does not expect anything in return. Give of yourself freely. It is hard to put this mindset into words, but it is the difference between having a conversation with someone and that very tangible feeling of discomfort when someone is trying to sell you something you don’t want.

Of course you can also consider Kant’s Categorical Imperative (felt like throwing that in again), which simply states that you should not treat people as a means to anything, but instead should treat them as ends. It’s just a fancy way of saying that using people isn’t cool. Thanks Kant.

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Networking; Making the improbable actual...

LIONS [LinkedIn Open Networkers]

Obviously, networking isn’t constrained purely to face-to-face interaction. I first came across Open Networking on LinkedIn, the social network aimed at businesspeople.

Online, open networking is an idea based around the concept of creating a collaborative environment. An open networker is one who will connect with literally everybody. Even strangers or those they have not done business with yet. Nobody clicks ‘I don’t know this person’

I guess you could say an open networker also cultivates an open-minded approach to dealing with people, at least online. With the connective potential of the Internet, open networking is enormously powerful, if we do it right. Imagine a world where you logged onto a social networking site, and people actually spent time offering each other helpful personal connections, opportunities and advice, instead of ceaseless Farmville or Mafia Wars requests. Hey, it could happen!

It works quite well on LinkedIn, because the website has a smart system of introductions and networks, based around mutual acquaintances and degrees of separation. Therefore it is in everyone’s best interest to have a larger number of connections, and with people who are also well connected. That way, if you should need to speak to that certain person, an Open Networker may help you make the first or second level connection that could change your life. And a good open networker is going to happily make that introduction for you. Yes, really!

Connectors love connecting others.  They are invaluable.

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Is a good place to meet a certain sort of person.

Done right, Open Networking is a way to form relationships with a large number of compassionate and well-connected people for mutual gain and cooperation. Done wrong it is a bunch of people adding you to their newsletters off of LinkedIn and mailing you stuff that you don’t want. Often about recruitment, or for some weird reason, weddings. My general experience of Open Networking has been brilliant (after hitting unsubscribe a few too many times) – and I have met some interesting people, which is very significant to me.

To find these people, look for references to the words LION, TopLinked or Open Networker in their profile. They may also list their email address on their profile so that you can ‘add them as a friend’, with no prior connection.

And if you are a LinkedIn user and are so inclined, add the capitalized word LION to your name somewhere. Then see what happens…

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Might be able to help you with your career goals.

 

Conclusion – If You Haven’t Started Yet…

Perhaps you know me already. Perhaps you don’t. However, if this article has inspired you to think differently about how you interact with people that you already know, or with those new to you, then that’s good.

After all, people are everywhere, and most everybody is looking for new opportunities or some way of feeling better. You can help them.

And if it feels appropriate, connect with me. Tell me what you can offer and what you need. I am happy to help in any way I can.

 

Article – Working As A Spiritual Practice

This is an article about how to turn any work into spiritually fulfilling practice through the practice of mindfulness. It also deals with beginning work (employed or otherwise) that you’ll find more rewarding than where you may be currently (dropping the ‘day job’ or following a calling).

Work – More Than Just Effort Expended

Work is much more than energy expended with the intent of a achieving certain outcome. True, many of us equate a ‘day job’ with work, and grudgingly do tolerable yet unfulfilling work to earn currency and keep ourselves sustained. But, are you familiar with doing work not just for the sake of achieving results, but for what the process does for you, as you work?

If you have ever played, then yes you are familiar with it.

You see, it’s when your play starts generating things that others find useful when it becomes most valuable work indeed.

Work As Spiritual Practice

Work is a spiritual practice if it is given your full attention and not simply seen as a means to an end, but an experience to be had. In the spiritual practice you are fully in the present of the activity. You can know that there will be an outcome, a finished project, but you want to be a human being in the work, not just a mechanism working towards eventual results [although results will likely come]. Of course, you don’t need to be fully in the moment to see results, and most every day we complete tasks, projects and assignments, and hit deadlines, even though pushing ourselves through all manner of pain and discomfort to get there on time. That’s one way to do it but can be a great way to suck the fun out of what you may have previously enjoyed (I know, I’ve been there).

Similarly, some work is obviously spiritual practice by it’s very nature. Think of the good Christian people who run a sanctuary for the homeless, or the Taoist practitioner who heals people with acupuncture. This doesn’t mean that your job in data processing is completely devoid of all spirit. It just depends how you practice it.

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This spiritual practice can help you deal with drudgery, should it be a problem for you.

How The Spiritual Practice Can Improve Your Work

If you come at it as an exercise in mindfulness, any work becomes more than just effort expended. It becomes an experience. This can also bring the enjoyment back into the work. If the experience is deep enough the work can become play. Think about it, there are no future critics decrying you. The only critic that matters right now as you work is you. And you can choose to acknowledge your criticism, thank the part of you that has offered it up and seek to direct this criticism in a productive manner. There’s an often quoted NLP aphorism that says ‘failure is feedback’. It is a handy belief to have.

Part of the problem is the sharp delineation between work and play. In a way, the delineation is helpful, it allows us to switch on and switch off from work mode. Helps in the work, life balance, right? True. On the flipside though it encourages a binary mindset in which we see one half of life simply as the means to live another. Terrible balance. Yes, you are allowed to be happy (dare I say supposed to be happy?) in your work time, and finding your real Work is definitely a great way to do this.

Diversion – Getting Out Of Your Mind Is Good For Your Work

Remember how lots of bands go on about how they do their best work when they are on drugs? There’s a reason. No doubt part of it is a reduction in inhibition due to the relaxing effects of the drugs. Part of it is due to the increased creative associations that come about from seeing a world decorated by dancing pink elephants. But part of it comes from the fact that these drugs allow people a little spiritual headspace and distance for their closely associated egos. This I think is especially true with powerful hallucinogens, and though it may be extremely hard to write any music in a full-blown trip, the implications of that trip on your thinking, personal perspective and later creative work may be profound.

Note I’m not telling you to take drugs and ‘become creative’. I’m just saying that they’re an unconventional weapon for your arsenal, if you are so inclined. This probably works a little better in vocations such as writing science fiction, than it would in sales. Saying that, in some industries it is a time honoured tradition for salesman to schmooze big clients with expensive drinks. And yes, alcohol is a drug like any other, no matter how legal it is.

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Mushrooms. They make you creative. Maybe.

The Little Voice Is More Than Just A Pain In The Head

Think of a time when the work is hard. For example; you are feeling bad with yourself. Perhaps the little voice in your head is telling you how much “this sucks“. I know mine does sometimes. Acknowledge that a part of you believes that this sucks and just accept it. When you aren’t fighting, censoring or second guessing yourself, or trying to deny that in some way the work is bad, you can be more constructive and less stressed. “This sucks?” – OK, ask that little voice where it sucks and you could be closer to finding how you can improve it.

In this way any negativity that is plaguing you can become a kind of internal constructive criticism. Isn’t that great? You get your own feedback before you’ve even asked for a critique from others. This is definitely an example of being in touch with your feelings. It can even be as simple as this; things that make you feel bad are subtle signs that you are either coming at this activity in an uncomfortable way, or that perhaps this is an activity you shouldn’t be doing.

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Feedback: A self corrective means for finding a better direction

Here Is How I Use This Practice In My Work…

In my work I try to connect with the timeless. This is important to me, as I have a tendency to lock myself into tasks and the day to day, and although I like to think of myself as a spiritual person, I often become very ungrounded. Doing this is a way to remind me that I am a spiritual being having a human experience, and not the other way round. It is through this that I gain spiritual nourishment, and fill my demanding personal needs to be ever creating new things! It is my surrogate for meditation, since I do not practice it. Well, not enough anyway…

If you get this spiritual practice right you can fulfil your creative needs, spiritual needs, and possibly even your financial needs (if you can make an income out of your Work)

How To ‘Do’ Mindfulness

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"Mindfulness practice is simple and completely feasible. Just by sitting and doing nothing, we are doing a tremendous amount." - Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

You don’t really do anything in mindfulness. You be. Any situation can be observed from the perspective of your higher self, but you need time to get into that perspective. Enlightenment can strike like lightning, but more often than not is a process of undoing and allowing. What does that mean? It means you can step out of ego and look at what you do from the perspective of an impartial observer I can only describe as the ‘authentic you’.

Enlightenment: to lighten something, or make it less heavy. Namely your head.

Mindfulness can be approached and defined as meditation.  In meditation we are often encouraged focus on one thing, such as our breathing or a word repeated as a mantra. We give as much attention to this activity as possible and allow the seething thoughts to pass away like fluffy clouds in a strong wind. As they are stripped away we reveal more and more of an authentic self and begin to feel a sense of peace. It’s fucking awesome.

Mindfulness is simple. You don’t need a step-by-step guide or a ton of information to overcomplicate it. It’s like love. You don’t need to be told how to experience love (though you may have taken advice on how to express love). Nevertheless here are some ideas to inspire a little connection with your higher self…

Simple tips for ‘getting’ the simple joy of being at work

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Be like a stone, resolute and unaffected.

You are reminding yourself to focus on a single thing, action or aspect of your work.

So, focus on your breathing as you work

As you work, just breathe.

Put aside all thoughts of the past (rumination) and the future (worry) and stay in the present (mindfulness). Everything is fine here and now. Just be here.

Simply say to yourself ‘in’ with your inhale and ‘out’ with your exhales.

Your mind will wander. This is fine, when you notice this, just notice how it has wandered, and then go back to counting in and out. When it wanders off again do the same. Think of it as a small child who likes to run off and explore and show it the same compassion, not frustration.

Focus on the sensations in your body as you work. Are you alert? Tired? Having fun? Slightly bored? Don’t judge how it feels, just recognise what it is like.

Focus on the work itself. If you are writing, how does the pen feel in your hand? If you are typing, how does it feel to bring your thoughts out onto the computer screen. How does the work really make you feel? Are you enthralled by it? Bored? Don’t judge, just feel. Judging all these feelings is unnecessary intellectual activity.

Just see yourself there doing the work. Be like a rock that types or writes or checks the mail, rocks can do these things…

Now look outwards, further to your environment.

Notice the specific things in that environment. Notice how the boss has his own room, or the how the work area of a messy co-worker makes you feel. What do you see everyday but take for granted? Be mindful of the little things that all together make up that workplace. What’s the ceiling look like? Ever thought about the meaning of those strange squiggles etched into your desk?

Another way to feel is through your ears. Try just listening. Focusing on what you hear in the workplace. I always notice that if I listen for it, that there is an everpresent background noise. That 50hz mains hum that you get everywhere in the UK. On top of that you hear all kinds of other little sounds. Wood creaking, fans spinning, the quiet whooshing sound of car wheels running across tarmac. The quiet sounds that people make as they concentrate.

If you are in a more rural area your sonic palette may be a little different. You may hear birds singing, wind rustling in the forested areas. Farmyard animals doing what they do. The more you listen, the more you notice that each area has it’s own particular sound. This form of mindfulness becomes sensory discovery, but careful, too much exploring can take you away from the original purpose of your meditation, which is simple mindfulness!

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The mindful exploration of soundscapes is good spiritual practice. Probably especially so for the sound designer!

The Benefits of Mindfulness…

What do you get from all of this noticing anyway?

Mindfulness has many benefits, and everyone gains something unique from the experience. Perhaps you start to see the smaller things in your environment?  Perhaps you gain a new perspective on what you may have previously taken for granted? Perhaps you notice how wonderful something really is, or how something isn’t as bad as it seems?  It is usually quite different for everyone. The general consensus is that whatever you feel, it is a definite improvement; once you break through the resistance you have built up to simply being present and noticing. In fact, the whole thing is remarkably easy, with the hard part often being motivated enough and receptive to actually taking some time out.

Myself, when fully mindful I experience the world as a living and interconnected thing, which I am an integral part of (which I suppose is true!). When I breathe I feel like something is breathing me, or that I am breathing in synchrony with everything else. My words cheapen the experience.

You may also find that mindfulness makes your working time less stressful.  Mindfulness is already being used clinically as simple stress intervention. If you feel the weight coming down on your shoulders, or the day becoming a bit too much, a few mindful minutes of being may be all the space you need. It is of course important that this time to be is all for you. Co-workers need to know when you are unable to take phonecalls or put out new fires, which is obviously no help if some time for mindfulness is your aim!

Again, just observe your thoughts and ‘feel’ where the stress is coming from. Sometimes it will feel like it is localised in one place, and other times it may feel like it is enveloping you all over. But stress is just a feeling, and the negative effects diminish when you are mindful not to associate with it.

The perceptive changes you get are fantastic for your creativity too. How? Seeing things a little differently may allow you to derive inspiration from a new perspective that simple awareness has given you. Simply put; see the world differently, experience it differently.

Think of it like seeing a horror film. A good horror film should scare you, right? Yet, most of the actual horror is caused by suspense and uncertainty, and when the antagonist is really revealed, the film usually turns into an ‘action’ movie. This is as the heroes face and overcome this previously unknown foe. So sometimes it is better just to know the nature of the beast. Knowing gives us confidence, and confidence helps us prevail.

Can the unconfident singer give a show stopping performance? –  Sure, it’s possible, but it’s harder to raise the roof with self-doubt hanging over it!

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The Xenomorphs from Aliens were a little less scary when we finally got to see them in more detail, getting shot to pieces by the Colonial Marines…

Mindfulness – The Benefits As Reported By Others

I did some research (I Googled..) and here are some of the additional benefits I found touted for mindfulness practice

  1. Improved focus and concentration
  2. Deepen and get in touch with intuitive wisdom and insights.
  3. Enhance the quality of relationships and communication by greater compassion
  4. Strengthen self-confidence and faith.
  5. Awaken more authenticity, heart, soul, and caring in our lives and work.
  6. Reduce stress anxiety and depression.
  7. Increase openness to new situations and change.
  8. Deepen peace of mind and sense of flow. Increase emotional and spiritual resiliency, master stress.
  9. Awaken more authenticity, heart, soul, and caring in our lives and work.

Are you sold yet?

Mindfulness – A State Of Being, Not An Occasional Activity

See, mindfulness shouldn’t really be something that you schedule in to your busy life. It is more a way to live. Like a more correct walking posture that leads to less bodily strain, or a way of thinking about people so that you see their better qualities. It is practiced more as a reminder of how things can go, And mindfulness isn’t something that is confined to any one area either. There are many examples of it practiced in the day to day, purposefully or accidentally, and here are some examples for you..

Sports: You see this in a way that certain sports people focus. There is very little self-consciousness hindering their game. They are in what Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi termed in his ground-breaking book of the same name as ‘flow’. They are immersed completely within the sport they are practicing. Never mind the thousands of people watching them in the stadium, the hundreds of thousands of people watching them on national television or the many competitors surrounding them. Their will is bent on winning that gold or catching that ball. Amongst that noisy, crowded, pressure filled world they are completely alone with themselves and their goal. That is flow!

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"A joyful life is an individual creation that cannot be copied from a recipe." - Csikszentmihalyi

Intellectual activities: Mathematicians, philosophers and similar deep thinkers also go into immersive states where they perform mental feats comparable to the finest physical athletes. The mathematician who delves so deep into solving an abstract proof that he forgets to eat dinner and go to sleep for a few days. Or the two philosophers who debate a heated issue with such intellectual intensity that they focus only on their opponent and his counterarguments. They’ve phased out the everpresent audience who are observing the debate, and expend all their mental energy on a sort of intellectual duel.

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In the film Good Will Hunting, you can see Matt Damon portraying a kind of intense focus as his character solves extremely complicated mathematical problems.

Ever Had ‘Flow?’

You too have probably experienced flow if you have ever been consciously immersed in an activity where you barely noticed the passage of time as you worked. Similarly you may notice flow when you feel a completely unhindered sense of activity within what you do. We’ve all had times when absolutely everything went our way. Perhaps you knew exactly what to say to diffuse that situation, or the steps you had to take to avoid that punch.  Perhaps you sat at the typewriter and you couldn’t get the words down fast enough, or you picked up your guitar and your fingers started writing the song for you. You were mindful in the sense that you were absorbed in that activity. You gave the task your full attention and the task gave you something magical back.

Caveat: I appreciate that with the variety of work we do and the stresses of different environments that some jobs may seem like particularly hard places to practice mindfulness. Practicing compassion and mindfulness as you run somebody down for stealing a bag or are getting chewed out by an aggravated customer may seem daunting. Perhaps it is such stressful environments that need mindfulness most.

Stephen Pressfield Described It…

Stephen Pressfield, author of bestselling Gates of Fire and many other great novels also wrote a book called The War Of Art. Apart from being hilarious and an insightful look into the life of a successful author, the book speaks about the importance of doing The Work. You know what The Work is; it is different for everybody. Some call it ‘the calling’. It is whatever comes sacred and naturally to you. It is whatever you feel compelled to do with your life.

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This man knows all about The War Of Art.

For example, the painter must paint, the poet must write poetry. Everyone has Work. It could even be cooking, financial accounting or how you dress yourself. You have a personal creative area where you are particularly talented and inspired. It is a deeply personal space for innovation and one that must be expressed.

This work is spiritual practice in the sense that doing it is what you need for your authentic self. I don’t think that mindfulness makes mundane work ‘The Work’ – that’d be like repainting a broken car and then trying to take it out for a spin. However, I do think mindful practice of your regular work can bring you closer to finding what works for you.

And as I said before, it can make the whole thing a far more pleasant experience, regardless.

Outro – My Work

It probably wouldn’t surprise you to know that I’ve written this article as a spiritual practice. I didn’t really have much of a plan for it apart from how I wanted to discuss the subject of work as a spiritual. This is not to say that I won’t write from a plan, in fact I think it is often essential. Fail to plan, plan to fail and so on. In this instance though it was just not necessary. It has been a joy to write, as I have not had to actually suffer through thinking what I need to write. And anything that brings you a sense of inner joy with no ill effects on others must have some spiritual value.

Over the years I have found part of my Work is to write. So, you’ve honoured me by acknowledging my work through reading it. But what do you need to do next? That of course is down to you. I wish you the best…

TLDR;

  • The division of life into ‘work’ and ‘play’ probably isn’t the best thing for you in the long term.
  • If you aren’t making an income out of your passion, you very well could be. Do you feel something stopping you?
  • If you aren’t in that wonderful position yet – consider some exercises in mindfulness that will help you get through your current work (see above)
  • Mindfulness has a ton of benefits that can help you in being a more balanced person, both in work and life.
  • You owe it to yourself to take care of your emotional and spiritual wellbeing by giving some time for being mindful.
  • You are probably doing ‘work’ right if feel you are getting paid to play in some way, or you feel amazed that people are giving you money for what you do.
  • If there are areas of your current work that feel arduous or terrible in some way, consider that this could be you giving yourself useful feedback. How can you act upon it?
  • Mindfulness is the key to connecting with the situation you find yourself in as you work.
  • Mindfulness can also be related to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s concept of ‘flow’ – which is giving full attention to the task at hand, and the enormous benefits this provides.
  • There are a number of ways to practice mindfulness, see above and find which ways work best for you.
  • Knowing and doing your ‘Work’/Calling will probably lead to a far more fulfilling life.
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One way to do it.

 

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